Quick Thoughts: “Never Have I Ever”

“Never Have I Ever: My Life (So Far) Without a Date” by Katie Heaney

Genre: Adult Non-Fiction, Memoir


Source: Library

Summary from Goodreads:

“I’ve been single for my entire life. Not one boyfriend. Not one short-term dating situation. Not one person with whom I regularly hung out and kissed on the face.”

So begins Katie Heaney’s memoir of her years spent looking for love, but never quite finding it. By age 25, equipped with a college degree, a load of friends, and a happy family life, she still has never had a boyfriend … and she’s barely even been on a second date.

Throughout this laugh-out-loud funny book, you will meet Katie’s loyal group of girlfriends, including flirtatious and outgoing Rylee, the wild child to Katie’s shrinking violet, as well as a whole roster of Katie’s ill-fated crushes. And you will get to know Katie herself — a smart, modern heroine relaying truths about everything from the subtleties of a Facebook message exchange to the fact that “Everybody who works in a coffee shop is at least a little bit hot.”

Funny, relatable, and inspiring, this is a memoir for anyone who has ever struggled to find love, but has also had a lot of fun in the process.


-Very easy going style of writing. It really does feel like a friend talking to you.

-Some of her descriptions of elementary and middle school were so spot on. I definitely had some embarrassing flashbacks.

– The story was a bit all over the place. It more or less was in chronological order but I was hoping for a bit more structure.

-Here’s the thing, this book is pretty much my story as well. I thought Katie captured the mild insanity that comes with perpetual singleness pretty well. You kind of secretly wish bad things about your friends who flaunt relationships in front of you even though you love them. You will obsess and dream about a crush until he might actually like you back and then you, of course, freak out and run off. I know those all sound crazy from the outside but they’re pretty accurate.

-The story was nice because it was entertaining but it was also nice to be reassured that you’re not the only completely and totally single person out there (even if it feels like it).

-I kind of wish there was more advice or reassurances about being single. You will constantly hear from others (who most of the time are happily committed) that you will find “the one” and yada, yada, yada. It’s nice advice but it’s hard to believe them. It’s really rare to get help from someone who is in a very similar situation as you.

The bottom line? Entertaining read!

17 thoughts on “Quick Thoughts: “Never Have I Ever”

  1. I picked this one up at a used bookstore without checking out any reviews/ratings online, so I’m glad to see your review! It seemed like a cute concept. I’m one from the opposite end of the spectrum – I’ve almost always had a boyfriend of some kind..so I’m interested in this to see the other side of things. Thanks for the review!

  2. Sounds like a good read . Actually , literally every woman goes through this kinda stuffs, and when we are reading it from someone’s point of view. It would definitely be great .

  3. Interesting! Sounds like a good story, and from a voice that often doesn’t get to speak. So many memoirs now are about people who have had countless relationships. But it’s possible, I think, to go through life only having a few special relationships. Thanks!

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